This is just a small collection of some of my favorite photographs that I’ve taken. I know, I know they are not amazing. I am only starting of to learn how to use a dslr camera, it’s harder than it looks. Anyway, enjoy 🙂
I, myself used to be a very big day dreamer. I am not talking about the innocent type, where you just day dream about a mansion that you want to live in or day dreaming about your meeting on Thursday which you create scenarios for in your head to prepare for any situation to happen. Oh no… I’m talking about the kind where it is literally an addiction. When you would rather go and day dream about living in Hogwarts rather than go and meet your friend for a coffee. Chronic daydreaming is bad for you for so many reasons and I am not a psychologist but I used to do this myself therefore I’m talking on behalf of my own experience and I know how awful it is.
#1 Ridiculous expectations
If you set massive expectations for your life and what it should be like, then you are pretty much setting yourself up for favour. Life is very unexpected and you can’t change that but if you are day dreaming about having that perfect life all the time, then honey, I’m sorry to tell you but it won’t happen.
#2 Time waster
You could start writing a fictional story but become the next J.K Rowling but instead you spend your time day dreaming about what would be if you did it and then never end up doing it.
#3 It’s a no no for high self esteem
This connects to my first point of having high expectations because when you don’t reach them you mind end up feeling like a failure and like nothing ever goes your way and give up on doing everything all together and end up constantly living in the fantasy world.
#4 It has an impact on your social life
When daydreaming starts to impact your social life then it’s a big problem. If you would rather spend time daydreaming than go and meet your best friend whom you haven’t seen in a long time for a catch up, then something isn’t right and it can make you feel very isolated.
#5 You’ll start to confuse fantasy with reality
This can be a consequence of daydreaming for years because when you, day dream you could trick your brain into thinking that the event that you were day dreaming about, actually happened. This makes it hard to socialize with people because you start to confuse your actual memories from day dreaming fantasies.
If anyone is dealing with this then I know exacly how you feel and I hope that this has helped a little bit. The first step is to recognise the problem and to accept it.
I fell in love with food and cooking when I was very young. I used to always go into the kitchen and help my mom out with dinner. She called me her little elf helper and for a little elf helper I didn’t think that I would end up going to college and end up in the catering and hospitality industry. I never thought that working behind the scenes in the restaurant would be so different from what I’ve had imagined! I listed down some of the things that I learned after working as a chef.
#1 People would do anything to get to the top
When you work in the kitchen, the position that you are under is very important. Many chefs would backstab their colleagues to get the higher position and so they could be more in charge. I a way I do understand that because if you under a low position, you literally get treated like shit but in my opinion you should be able to earn it from your skills.
#2 Things aren’t personal, it’s just business
When you work in the kitchen, the chances are that you will get screamed at a lot… Maybe a little less like Gordon Ramsay but still it can be very terrifying. But it’s something that you need to get used to. Chefs work under a lot of pressure and they want things to be perfect. I’ve gotten angry in the kitchen before so I can’t judge…
#3 People that you work with will become your friends
The sweet 14 hour long days. I do not miss them. I do not miss not being able to see my friends, not being able to ring my grandparents and not being able to get a good night’s sleep. But the good thing about it is that, your work mates become your friends and people that you spend your time with on your days off because your other friends don’t want to see you anymore because you are never not busy. Oh well.
#4 You will learn something new every day
When I worked in the kitchen, I learned something new every single day. Not even food wise. Since you spend so much time at work, you end up having interesting chats and get put in interesting situations sometimes. For instance, I learned how to be nice to someone, even if you don’t like them.
#5 It’s not the end of the world
When you are under a lot of pressure and something doesn’t go the way as it should, it literally feels like it’s the end of the world. Either you dropped a cake on the floor, you are too slow to the make the dishes or you messed up the other. You feel like, you want the ground to swallow you right there and then but the chefs that I worked with taught me that it’s okay. Even if all of those things happened that you still have a home to go to and food to eat and you are still here so things are good.
All in all, working as chef was a very good experience and I learned a lot! For the record, I’m not bashing the industry or anyone who is a chef, I’m just stating my experience.
Oh, sweet Sunday. We all love you very much. More than you can imagine. The smell of strong coffee, fresh tasty pancakes and smiles from ear to ear. What could be better? You say you want to read a book? Go ahead. Watch movies all day? Sure. Or simply just sleep all day. Why not? But one thing that I love to do is journaling. Tearing your heart out or just writing about what you did on paper is so pleasant. Sitting by a big window , with a cup of coffee or tea getting lost in your thoughts about the future…wow that just got so deep.
In all seriousness, writing down every day about your day, about what you did and about what you wish you could have done is so helpful. At the end of the week you can flick through your journal and make plans for next week and about what you hope to achieve. It’ll make it easier for you to focus on things that you want to do or that you need to do. For instance, during the week, nearly every day you would be writing about how you want to go volunteering but you never did. For next week, you could set yourself a challenge to do so. After you do it it’ll make you feel better!
Sundays are also so great to have a little pamper yourself afternoon too. Run yourself a bath, put on relaxing music and melt away. Be kind to yourself and not only on Sundays! Every day of the week! Remember to love yourself!
When I was, younger I used to paint, and draw all the fricking time and it felt so good to do so! For my mom’s birthday, I even painted her a bunch of roses to give her a more personalized gift and she loved it! Art could be used as a stress release and as a gift to somebody. Bonus! You don’t even need to be painting Mona Lisa, but even if it’s just some shapes or the galaxy, it’ll do the trick.I definitely used it for both. I used to paint a lot when i was sad to pull me out of my misery and cheer me up, and it worked.
The reason why I decided to write about this, because I recently got back into painting and art in general. I paint every day now which I’m so proud of myself for because I kept beating myself up for not doing it and I finally picked up that paint brush and just did it!
It doesn’t even have to be painting or drawing. It could be doll making, knitting or even making things out of clay. It gives you a chance to be spontaneous and creative which boosts your mood. Or even doodling could work! I always doodle in my notebook and let me just say I end up doodling some weird things…but it’s creative! And very cheap! So, get your creativeness on!
I wish I could say that you are my spice to my chai latte, my peanut to my butter, you are my milk to my cookie. But sadly, you are not. You are more like an unexpected beast who creeps up onto me when I am at my best. Who gets into my head just to tell me that I should spend the next five hours watching YouTube videos rather than doing something important.
I could be having the time of my life. Watching the bright blue sky with fluffy white clouds pass by, having that light summer breeze running through my hair and feeling like I could conquer the world. Yes, I could be if you weren’t around! I could be doing so many if you would just leave me alone and stayed in your lane. Yes, I went there. And if you didn’t, I would just mount you with all the Harry potter quotes because due to you I have watched a million times!
Please, don’t make me suffer anymore. I have had enough and you should know much better than that. I know you constantly want to play but you should go and bother somebody else. Actually no, that was wrong. Disappear!
When people ask me what it’s like to go through the days when having anxiety, the only way that I can explain it is that you just feel afraid all the time. You feel like the world is out to get you and your body and mind are prepared for the worst. All kind of thoughts come to your mind, you start to sweat and shake, you start to gasp for air, everything starts to spin. That’s an anxiety attack.
The other day I went for a job interview and I was terrified. I thought my heart was going to come out of my chest. All in all, it went well but afterwards my world felt so dark and miserable. But when I got home I lied down in bed to relax and started thinking and I remember what somebody that I worked with said to me. He said ‘the only way to get over your anxiety and your fear is to do the thing that scares you the most. Constantly put yourself in situations that sets of your anxiety so in the end you and your body will know that there is nothing to be afraid of’. After thinking that I thought I need to set myself a challenge. I challenge myself to do things that scare me!
#1 Go to my trial shift tomorrow
#2 Eat in a café my myself
#3 Ask to do work experience
#4 Smile at a stranger
#5 Ask for help at a store
#6 Go out during the day without make up
#7 Accept that you were wrong and apologise
#8 Tell the truth
#9 Show off my work
#10 Don’t be afraid to spend more time on self-care!
You should make a list too!
I was lucky enough to get my first mobile phone when I was eight years old but it didn’t do me any favors. As much as I appreciate everything that we have, today made me wonder if it’s actually all fun and games … I think not.
Today I was on the train with my boyfriend and the first thing that he did when we sat down was go on Facebook and start scrolling down. When instead we could have had a nice chat about our day. Social media is pulling us out of our lives and it is controlling us when it should be the other way around. Even though social media helps us to connect with people from around the world it pulls us away from people that are close to us and all our close relationships. These are the ways that social media and our phones are screwing with us:
#1 It makes us stupid
If you don’t know how to spell something, you have auto correct. If you don’t know how to get somewhere, you have Google maps. If you don’t know how many people there are in Indonesia, you have Google. We literally have everything served for us on a silver platter and we don’t ever realize it. We don’t even need to use our brains anymore.
#2 It starts unnecessary arguments
Liking photos of opposite isn’t allowed and if you cross that line get ready for an argument. That’s the way that a lot of people think these days and in my opinion it’s ridiculous and it creates unnecessary conflict.
#3 It’s a time waster
This is a major one and we all do it. We know that there’s that very important assignment that we need to finish but it doesn’t give us any satisfaction at that moment so instead we browse through social media. We tell ourselves that we’ll only be five minutes and that five minutes could lead to us wasting a whole day. True story.
#4 Self-esteem booster…not really
When many of us post a photo, we do it for the likes and if you are sat there thinking that you haven’t done that then you are lying. You have thought about how many likes you’ll get on your photo at least once. If you don’t, you might not feel so good about yourself and you might be questioning yourself if you are good enough. All of them perfect Instagram profiles aren’t helping either…not that there isn’t anything wrong with them and people can post whatever they want but something that many of us forget is that most people wouldn’t post a photo on Instagram about their problems.
#5 We don’t live in the moment anymore
Before we had digital cameras and cameras on phones with us everywhere we go, we just had to experience every single moment for what it was. Of course, it’s nice to take photos and have things to remember but when you literally take photos of EVERYTHING just so you have things to post on social media then you miss out on a lot.
#6 It could literally ruin our lives
Now days with a one single click or tap you could literally ruin your life. Maybe you post a wrong photo, send a text to the wrong photo or somebody hacks into your phone . It’s so simple yet the consequences could be major.
All in all social media is pretty great but we just need to learn how to use it responsibility!
Gratitude is one of the ways to appreciate what you have and to live a happier life. I’d encourage anyone who is reading this to take five minutes and write down all the things that you are grateful for!
I am originally from Lithuania but I was forced to move to the UK with my parents when I was 10 years old and I could easily say that it was the best thing that happened to me. I’m not going to lie at first it was very hard and learning the language was awful but once I got the hang of it, it was awesome! Real talk! A lot of people are thinking weather they should move abroad for university or for work but they aren’t sure if it’s worth it so I thought I would list the reasons why moving abroad was the best thing that happened to me.
It is safe to say that speaking more than one language is so beneficial for being able to connect to people or even an advantage for work. I can currently speak fluently in English and Lithuanian. Even though Lithuanian isn’t a very popular language but when I worked as a chef, another Lithuanian chef was working with me and it made it easier to communicate. So, the best way to learn a different language is to move to a different country!
#2 You become aware of different cultures
When I first moved to England and started going to school I had a massive cultural shock! I still find drinking tea with milk very weird, to be honest… At first, it’s going to be hard to adapt if the culture is completely different from what you are used to but you’ll adapt and learn so many new things.
#3 New buddies!
By moving to a different country, you get to meet people who you would have never thought that you would meet which could become your lifelong friends. Having friends from all over the world is the best and if you ever leave the country and want to go back you have your friends couch to sleep on! Bonus!
#4 You become more open minded
By meeting new people and experiencing different cultures you come out of your bubble and realise that people are very different. You will be more open to other people’s point of views and explore different ideas.
#5 It makes you miss your home country
Even though I’ve been living here for years I still get homesick sometimes but it isn’t a bad thing. When I was living in Lithuania I never put time into seeing its beautiful sights or amazing beaches. When I get to go back my schedule is literally full because I want to see everything! You never truly know what you have until you lose it…