Real talk: body image

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I’d say I started to worry about body image from the age of eight, which now thinking back to it is so scary that little Rosie was worried so much about the way that she looked when instead she should have been carefree and playing outside with her friends. What didn’t help was that, some boys in my primary school would call me fat just because I had thicker thighs and those little comments could really affect you when you have been told from a young age that you need to lose weight in order to be beautiful. But I am very happy to know that ‘fat shaming’ is getting called out a lot more these days but not enough. So, these are some of my reasons to say fuck you to those who fat shame you:

 

#1 Everybody is different

Some people may not know or realise this but everyone has different body types! Boom! Mind blowing! Some people have smaller waists, some have bigger chest and some have a straight down figure. Some of us are just naturally curvier than others and even by starving ourselves to death is not going change that.

#2 Women have higher percentage of body fat

Even though I don’t like to single people out by gender because body shaming happens to men too but since whenever I’ve been called fat it’s been mostly by men so I feel like I need to include this. Men’s body fat percentage is about 5% lower than women’s which means that women are genetically programmed to have more fat on our bodies in order to be able to reproduce. Lay off men!

#3 People look too much at what media states is ‘beautiful’

Media plays a very big part in our lives these days to promote what the ‘perfect body is’. The reality is that a very low percentage of people have the perfect body. Even those models that you see in magazines, they are all photoshopped… Most women and men have stretch marks and belly rolls and it’s okay.

#4 Be confident with who you are

Being confident and comfortable with yourself is one of the best things that you could develop. If you show that you don’t care about what others say then people won’t even bother saying anything. Confidence is your best accessory! And if you ever do decide to lose a few pounds then don’t ever do it for other people but always do it for yourself because you’ll soon realise that doing something for yourself is the best motivation!

 

We should all celebrate our bodies and love ourselves no matter what because we only have one body and we should cherish it and take care of it!

P.S I’m not trying to body shame skinny people or models but I’m just sharing my experience as someone more on a curvy side.

Stay amazing!

Rosie 😊

 

Chronic Daydreaming

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I, myself used to be a very big day dreamer. I am not talking about the innocent type, where you just day dream about a mansion that you want to live in or day dreaming about your meeting on Thursday which you create scenarios for in your head to prepare for any situation to happen. Oh no… I’m talking about the kind where it is literally an addiction. When you would rather go and day dream about living in Hogwarts rather than go and meet your friend for a coffee. Chronic daydreaming is bad for you for so many reasons and I am not a psychologist but I used to do this myself therefore I’m talking on behalf of my own experience and I know how awful it is.

 

#1 Ridiculous expectations

If you set massive expectations for your life and what it should be like, then you are pretty much setting yourself up for favour. Life is very unexpected and you can’t change that but if you are day dreaming about having that perfect life all the time, then honey, I’m sorry to tell you but it won’t happen.

#2 Time waster

You could start writing a fictional story but become the next J.K Rowling but instead you spend your time day dreaming about what would be if you did it and then never end up doing it.

#3 It’s a no no for high self esteem

This connects to my first point of having high expectations because when you don’t reach them you mind end up feeling like a failure and like nothing ever goes your way and give up on doing everything all together and end up constantly living in the fantasy world.

#4 It has an impact on your social life

When daydreaming starts to impact your social life then it’s a big problem. If you would rather spend time daydreaming than go and meet your best friend whom you haven’t seen in a long time for a catch up, then something isn’t right and it can make you feel very isolated.

#5 You’ll start to confuse fantasy with reality

This can be a consequence of daydreaming for years because when you, day dream you could trick your brain into thinking that the event that you were day dreaming about, actually happened. This makes it hard to socialize with people because you start to confuse your actual memories from day dreaming fantasies.

 

If anyone is dealing with this then I know exacly how you feel and I hope that this has helped a little bit. The first step is to recognise the problem and to accept it.

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

 

What I discovered after working as a chef

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I fell in love with food and cooking when I was very young. I used to always go into the kitchen and help my mom out with dinner. She called me her little elf helper and for a little elf helper I didn’t think that I would end up going to college and end up in the catering and hospitality industry. I never thought that working behind the scenes in the restaurant would be so different from what I’ve had imagined! I listed down some of the things that I learned after working as a chef.

 

#1 People would do anything to get to the top

When you work in the kitchen, the position that you are under is very important. Many chefs would backstab their colleagues to get the higher position and so they could be more in charge. I a way I do understand that because if you under a low position, you literally get treated like shit but in my opinion you should be able to earn it from your skills.

#2 Things aren’t personal, it’s just business

When you work in the kitchen, the chances are that you will get screamed at a lot… Maybe a little less like Gordon Ramsay but still it can be very terrifying. But it’s something that you need to get used to. Chefs work under a lot of pressure and they want things to be perfect. I’ve gotten angry in the kitchen before so I can’t judge…

#3 People that you work with will become your friends

The sweet 14 hour long days. I do not miss them. I do not miss not being able to see my friends, not being able to ring my grandparents and not being able to get a good night’s sleep. But the good thing about it is that, your work mates become your friends and people that you spend your time with on your days off because your other friends don’t want to see you anymore because you are never not busy. Oh well.

#4 You will learn something new every day

When I worked in the kitchen, I learned something new every single day. Not even food wise. Since you spend so much time at work, you end up having interesting chats and get put in interesting situations sometimes. For instance, I learned how to be nice to someone, even if you don’t like them.

#5 It’s not the end of the world

When you are under a lot of pressure and something doesn’t go the way as it should, it literally feels like it’s the end of the world. Either you dropped a cake on the floor, you are too slow to the make the dishes or you messed up the other. You feel like, you want the ground to swallow you right there and then but the chefs that I worked with taught me that it’s okay. Even if all of those things happened that you still have a home to go to and food to eat and you are still here so things are good.

 

All in all, working as chef was a very good experience and I learned a lot! For the record, I’m not bashing the industry or anyone who is a chef, I’m just stating my experience.

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

It’s Sunday. It’s time to relax and reflect

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Oh, sweet Sunday. We all love you very much. More than you can imagine. The smell of strong coffee, fresh tasty pancakes and smiles from ear to ear. What could be better? You say you want to read a book? Go ahead. Watch movies all day? Sure. Or simply just sleep all day. Why not? But one thing that I love to do is journaling. Tearing your heart out or just writing about what you did on paper is so pleasant. Sitting by a big window , with a cup of coffee or tea getting lost in your thoughts about the future…wow that just got so deep.

In all seriousness, writing down every day about your day, about what you did and about what you wish you could have done is so helpful. At the end of the week you can flick through your journal and make plans for next week and about what you hope to achieve. It’ll make it easier for you to focus on things that you want to do or that you need to do. For instance, during the week, nearly every day you would be writing about how you want to go volunteering but you never did. For next week, you could set yourself a challenge to do so. After you do it it’ll make you feel better!

Sundays are also so great to have a little pamper yourself afternoon too. Run yourself a bath, put on relaxing music and melt away. Be kind to yourself and not only on Sundays! Every day of the week! Remember to love yourself!

Stay amazing!

Rosie 😊

 

The beauty of art

When I was, younger I used to paint, and draw all the fricking time and it felt so good to do so! For my mom’s birthday, I even painted her a bunch of roses to give her a more personalized gift and she loved it! Art could be used as a stress release and as a gift to somebody. Bonus!  You don’t even need to be painting Mona Lisa, but even if it’s just some shapes or the galaxy, it’ll do the trick.I definitely used it for both. I used to paint a lot when i was sad to pull me out of my misery and cheer me up, and it worked.

The reason why I decided to write about this, because I recently got back into painting and art in general. I paint every day now which I’m so proud of myself for because I kept beating myself up for not doing it and I finally picked up that paint brush and just did it!

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It doesn’t even have to be painting or drawing. It could be doll making, knitting or even making things out of clay. It gives you a chance to be spontaneous and creative which boosts your mood. Or even doodling could work! I always doodle in my notebook and let me just say I end up doodling some weird things…but it’s creative! And very cheap! So, get your creativeness on!

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

A letter to my procrastination

Dear procrastination,

I wish I could say that you are my spice to my chai latte, my peanut to my butter, you are my milk to my cookie. But sadly, you are not. You are more like an unexpected beast who creeps up onto me when I am at my best. Who gets into my head just to tell me that I should spend the next five hours watching YouTube videos rather than doing something important.

I could be having the time of my life. Watching the bright blue sky with fluffy white clouds pass by, having that light summer breeze running through my hair and feeling like I could conquer the world. Yes, I could be if you weren’t around! I could be doing so many if you would just leave me alone and stayed in your lane. Yes, I went there. And if you didn’t, I would just mount you with all the Harry potter quotes because due to you I have watched a million times!

Please, don’t make me suffer anymore. I have had enough and you should know much better than that. I know you constantly want to play but you should go and bother somebody else. Actually no, that was wrong. Disappear!

Yours sincerely,

Your master

 

 

 

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

Being afraid isn’t the answer

When people ask me what it’s like to go through the days when having anxiety, the only way that I can explain it is that you just feel afraid all the time. You feel like the world is out to get you and your body and mind are prepared for the worst. All kind of thoughts come to your mind, you start to sweat and shake, you start to gasp for air, everything starts to spin. That’s an anxiety attack.

The other day I went for a job interview and I was terrified. I thought my heart was going to come out of my chest. All in all, it went well but afterwards my world felt so dark and miserable. But when I got home I lied down in bed to relax and started thinking and I remember what somebody that I worked with said to me. He said ‘the only way to get over your anxiety and your fear is to do the thing that scares you the most. Constantly put yourself in situations that sets of your anxiety so in the end you and your body will know that there is nothing to be afraid of’. After thinking that I thought I need to set myself a challenge. I challenge myself to do things that scare me!

#1 Go to my trial shift tomorrow

#2 Eat in a café my myself

#3 Ask to do work experience

#4 Smile at a stranger

#5 Ask for help at a store

#6 Go out during the day without make up

#7 Accept that you were wrong and apologise

#8 Tell the truth

#9 Show off my work

#10 Don’t be afraid to spend more time on self-care!

You should make a list too!

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂