Social media trap

I was lucky enough to get my first mobile phone when I was eight years old but it didn’t do me any favors. As much as I appreciate everything that we have, today made me wonder if it’s actually all fun and games … I think not.

Today I was on the train with my boyfriend and the first thing that he did when we sat down was go on Facebook and start scrolling down. When instead we could have had a nice chat about our day. Social media is pulling us out of our lives and it is controlling us when it should be the other way around. Even though social media helps us to connect with people from around the world it pulls us away from people that are close to us and all our close relationships. These are the ways that social media and our phones are screwing with us:

#1 It makes us stupid

If you don’t know how to spell something, you have auto correct. If you don’t know how to get somewhere, you have Google maps. If you don’t know how many people there are in Indonesia, you have Google. We literally have everything served for us on a silver platter and we don’t ever realize it. We don’t even need to use our brains anymore.

#2 It starts unnecessary arguments

Liking photos of opposite isn’t allowed and if you cross that line get ready for an argument. That’s the way that a lot of people think these days and in my opinion it’s ridiculous and it creates unnecessary conflict.

#3 It’s a time waster

This is a major one and we all do it. We know that there’s that very important assignment that we need to finish but it doesn’t give us any satisfaction at that moment so instead we browse through social media. We tell ourselves that we’ll only be five minutes and that five minutes could lead to us wasting a whole day. True story.

#4 Self-esteem booster…not really

When many of us post a photo, we do it for the likes and if you are sat there thinking that you haven’t done that then you are lying. You have thought about how many likes you’ll get on your photo at least once. If you don’t, you might not feel so good about yourself and you might be questioning yourself if you are good enough. All of them perfect Instagram profiles aren’t helping either…not that there isn’t anything wrong with them and people can post whatever they want but something that many of us forget is that most people wouldn’t post a photo on Instagram about their problems.

#5 We don’t live in the moment anymore

Before we had digital cameras and cameras on phones with us everywhere we go, we just had to experience every single moment for what it was. Of course, it’s nice to take photos and have things to remember but when you literally take photos of EVERYTHING just so you have things to post on social media then you miss out on a lot.

#6 It could literally ruin our lives

Now days with a one single click or tap you could literally ruin your life. Maybe you post a wrong photo, send a text to the wrong photo or somebody hacks into your phone . It’s so simple yet the consequences could be major.

 

All in all social media is pretty great but we just need to learn how to use it responsibility!

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

 

Things that I’m grateful for

  • I am grateful for my grandparents always looking after me and always being by my side even when I’m at my worst
  • I am grateful to have roof over my head and have food to eat
  • I am grateful for being able to travel to some amazing countries and seeing their way of life
  • I am grateful for my boyfriend being so amazing
  • I am grateful for living in the age on technology
  • I am thankful for those rainy days spent in bed staring out the window
  • I am grateful for my haters who made me so much stronger
  • I am grateful for the world being more open minded than it was years ago
  • I am grateful for the sound of birds every morning I wake up
  • I am grateful for the lessons that I’ve learned from bad experiences
  • I am grateful for the strangers who smile at me and make my day
  • I am grateful to be living and breathing right at this moment

 

Gratitude is one of the ways to appreciate what you have and to live a happier life. I’d encourage anyone who is reading this to take five minutes and write down all the things that you are grateful for!

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

Moving abroad was the best thing that happened to me

I am originally from Lithuania but I was forced to move to the UK with my parents when I was 10 years old and I could easily say that it was the best thing that happened to me.  I’m not going to lie at first it was very hard and learning the language was awful but once I got the hang of it, it was awesome! Real talk! A lot of people are thinking weather they should move abroad for university or for work but they aren’t sure if it’s worth it so I thought I would list the reasons why moving abroad was the best thing that happened to me.

#1 Language

It is safe to say that speaking more than one language is so beneficial for being able to connect to people or even an advantage for work. I can currently speak fluently in English and Lithuanian. Even though Lithuanian isn’t a very popular language but when I worked as a chef, another Lithuanian chef was working with me and it made it easier to communicate. So, the best way to learn a different language is to move to a different country!

#2 You become aware of different cultures

When I first moved to England and started going to school I had a massive cultural shock! I still find drinking tea with milk very weird, to be honest… At first, it’s going to be hard to adapt if the culture is completely different from what you are used to but you’ll adapt and learn so many new things.

#3 New buddies!

By moving to a different country, you get to meet people who you would have never thought that you would meet which could become your lifelong friends. Having friends from all over the world is the best and if you ever leave the country and want to go back you have your friends couch to sleep on! Bonus!

#4 You become more open minded

By meeting new people and experiencing different cultures you come out of your bubble and realise that people are very different. You will be more open to other people’s point of views and explore different ideas.

#5 It makes you miss your home country

Even though I’ve been living here for years I still get homesick sometimes but it isn’t a bad thing. When I was living in Lithuania I never put time into seeing its beautiful sights or amazing beaches. When I get to go back my schedule is literally full because I want to see everything! You never truly know what you have until you lose it…

 

Stay amazing!

Rosie 🙂

Growing up isn’t easy

When we are first born, our parents must look after us. We are so fragile that we aren’t even capable to look after ourselves. They do everything for us: feed us, dress us, clean us up. It’s an easy life. But that doesn’t last for long. You blink and there you go; welcome to the real world. Our parents babying us was just supposed to prepare us for the real world, they say. They think. But all that it has done was frighten us even more. Having us to come out of our fantasy world isn’t as easy as they think. The closest thing that I would compare an adult world to would be a battle field. Blood spilling everywhere, people sobbing in the background, gunshots. It’s the same. Bills that you can’t pay, heartbreak and all that fun stuff.

It can’t be all that bad for all of us though, which is true. For the lucky ones. Their whole future is already decided and payed for them. You only must be the smartest and the most beautiful kid to not disappoint your parents and to have good future. But for less lucky ones, like me; nothing was decided for me.  (sarcasm, kind of)

But we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves. Everything else is already giving us a massive headache and you saying things like: ‘I wish I had more money’, ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘he has it better than me’ adds more fuel to the fire. The best thing to do is to just sit down with a cup of tea and to reflect on how well you’ve done so far. Do you remember that time you carried on working out and doing that squat challenge even though you were about to pass out? What about the time when you had to work nonstop even if you didn’t want to, but still did it because you had debt to pay off? Or simply you got out of bed and got ready even though you had high anxiety? Yeah, that’s what I thought!

Next time you think of how much adulting sucks and that you are a failure just think how much you’ve accomplished so far and that you are awesome! Remember, be nice to yourself!

Peace!

Rosie 🙂

 

The power of a weekend trip

We go through life constantly having to deal with different issues and difficult people. Working hard to achieve our goals. Or constantly crying about being a failure at life and eating a whole jar of Nutella. But I am here to tell you that it’s okay and that it’s okay to take a step back and go away on a little weekend trip.
So, I recently went to one of the places that I always wanted to go to, which is Liverpool. But before I even decided to go, I wasn’t feeling very good about myself, found it hard to stick to my new year’s resolutions and I was just a complete mess. I thought, the best thing for me to do before I completely self-destruct was to go away somewhere where I’ve never been before and to see new things and recharge. I would encourage everyone to use this when you are feeling down or you’d like to travel and see new places. So, there are some advantages to going on a weekend trip:

#1 Visiting a new place boosts your mood
When you go to a new place, you are always so excited about seeing all the things that the city/town has got to offer which puts you in a much better mood and you are again feeling motivated again. We as human being need change. We need change for getting new ideas, for self-development and our life would simply just be too boring without change.

#2 You get to do something you have never done before
Every city/town have their own attractions or museums for you to see. For instance, when I went to Liverpool they had a massive dock, which was amazing! They also had one of them big wheel thing, like a smaller version of the London eye. I am very proud of myself for going on it because, I am so scared of heights and I thought that I will pee my pants but anyway… that’s what weekend trips are all about! Kind of.

#3 You meet new people
It’s very easy for you to meet new people at a new place because even though you think in your head that you blend in very well but to others it’s so obvious that you are a tourist. For instance, when I went to Liverpool, I went to a slot casino for the first time. Don’t judge me. The girl who worked was Lithuanian, the same as me and we bonded over that! Also, I won £60 from there, so bonus!

#4 It makes you miss your home town
At the start of the trip you are all excited and you wish that you would live there because the city has so much offer. But about one day in the bed starts to get uncomfortable, you nearly throw up from the hotel coffee and the loud music and the sound of cars when you are trying to sleep. Then you realise that you miss that little flat that you live in, which has holes in the walls but it makes you appreciate what you have.
In conclusion, they are awesome!

New year – New blog

For my first blog post I thought what would not be better than write my New Year’s resolutions, even though I’m 7 days late. Oops. On 2017 I mainly want to focus on self-improvement and genially having a better year because I don’t know about you but 2016 wasn’t the best for me. From getting into a debt, dropping out of education and failing multiple types to eat healthy. This year, I’m saying ‘enough’! If you are in the same boat, then tune in.

 

#1 Welcome change with open arms

Some of us we go day by day following the same routine and we wish that something would change but at the same time we are afraid to let change in. Why is that? Good question. This is because we get comfortable with our routines and any slight change could cause us discomfort. Even a slight change like taking a different route to work could introduce you to something new. Or eating a different breakfast in the morning could open your inner creativeness.

 

#2 Learn a new language (hola!)

Knowing more than one language is very useful because it broadens your memory and you don’t know when you’ll get into an argument with an angry Italian woman (no offense). There are several apps that you can use to learn a new language like Duolingo or using YouTube tutorials. You have no excuses now!

 

#3 Show more gratitude

Being grateful plays a big part in your overall happiness even more the small stuff like your boyfriend cooking you dinner. Writing down 5 things that you are grateful for every day could help you become happier and realise that things aren’t as bad as you think they are.

 

#4 Exercise Exercise Exercise!

Yoga, cardio, running, weight training. There are so many different types of workouts that you can do.  It’ll help you think better, clear out your skin and, you’ll get that bikini body that you have been dreaming about for so long.

 

#5 Eat healthier

No, I don’t mean eating kale with every meal. But making small alternatives to your meals could really make a difference. For instance, eating brown rice instead of white. Including at least one piece of fruit or veg with every meal. Or if you are a snack lover like me, instead of eating potato crisps, purchase or make your own vegetable crisps.

 

#6 invest money into something that you love to do

Turn into a minimalist. That doesn’t mean that you need to get rid of everything you own but simply stop buying things that you don’t need. Before you are about to buy that avocado cutter ask yourself ‘do I really need this?’ Instead, use that money for something like a new camera, food to use for a new recipe that you found or a sowing machine.

 

#7 Wake up earlier

When you wake up early in the morning it’s one of the best things. You can sit by the window with your cup of tea, looking at the sunrise and thinking about life. You can also get a lot more things done and you are most productive in the mornings. If you love to sleep in like me then try to wake up 15 minutes earlier every morning until you wake up on the time that you want to and stick to it. Regardless if you end up going to sleep at 4am you still need to stick to waking up at the same time.

 

#8 Reduce time wasters 

I am very guilty of this. I waste a lot of my time of social media and watching videos of cute cats. More than you know 2 hours have already passed. You could have used those 2 hours cleaning the house, reading or working on your hobby.  Try not to use social media first thing you wake up and get straight to having breakfast or a shower.

 

#9 Read more

Knowledge is power. The more you know the better. You don’t need to read a book a day. Simply by just reading about ten pages a day you would have read about 10 books a year. Imagine how much you could find out from those 10 books. Not even does reading broadens your knowledge it awakens your creative and helps with your grammar.

 

#10 Focus on your loved ones

You run around doing your own thing that you forget the people who were there for you when you were at your lowest. When your grandma calls you, don’t reject her call and say ‘oh I’ll just call her later’. Spend as much time with the people that you love and who inspire you to be better! Continue reading “New year – New blog”